If you’ve been following me these past few days, I launched a 30 – day blog challenge for the month of April 2020, and I am now on day 04 of 30. Honestly, this one is tough – my dream job. A few years back if I’m not mistaken, I had a conversation with a friend and she asked me if I wanted to work for the government, to which I responded “no.” She then asked if I want to continue working for the corporate, and I said, “not really”. Though I have plans of teaching and use my Master’s degree, I still couldn’t think of a more fulfilling answer to the question, “What do you want to be then?” In all honesty, I want to be a housewife – the best wife to my husband and the best hands-on mother to my kids.”
My dream job
It’s been five years since I moved into a new city far from home. The world really hit me hard. When I wake up, no one’s going to be there to make lunch or dinner for me, or even do the laundry. Living alone and learning life skills on top of the new difficulty and pressure at my first ever job caused me a lot of adjustments which further helped me to become a responsible woman today.
We live in a society where women are expected to do a lot more, fulfill our potentials and become career-focused. The stigma of being a housewife is getting worse with the growing popularity of women empowerment. Today, society perceives a woman to be less-empowered when she fails to dream big as much as a man could. I am actually thinking about how difficult the transition would be to become a housewife when you are an educated and independent woman who never used to rely to anyone, but herself. I guess it would be difficult to lean on your partner in financial aspect. There are still times that I reflect and ask myself, Would I be a working mom and further advance my career as an engineer, or would I be staying at home to become a full-time care provider? Now, I am Civil Engineer and an instructor, and I love my job. Would I really be just throwing them all away?
Housewife with a Twist
This topic, my dream job, makes me also reflect. What people do not see and realize in there is no financial gain or social recognition expected when a woman chooses this vocation. The only thing that fuels a woman to continue to become a full-time wife and mother is her absolute love for her family.
Okay, ladies and gentleman. This is just a dream and we are free to dream (haha). Next things I’m gonna tell you are the reasons why I love to become one.
Why I want to be a housewife?
- I want to become the best wife. To my future husband, I want to learn how to cook for you so that you will be eager to go home. In fact, I even want to enroll in a Massage Therapy course because I want to give my family, especially my future husband, a professional-grade massage.
- I want to raise my own kids. Actually, I am already excited to have kids, aside from my countless fur kids right now. If I bring in little people to this world, I want to be the one who will raise them. What I will surely avoid to happen is for me to work all day and just pay someone else to take care of them. I want to homeschool them and teach them to love math at a young age (haha).
…with a Twist?
Yes. My dream is to be a housewife with a twist. I can have more time improving my blog. Sooner, I’d like to explore other possibilities such as e-commerce, etc. It’s also my dream to put up a business which is related to animals, a pet supply store, perhaps. I would still continue my calling of rescuing animals. I know that God will bless me more financially to be able to help more.
With a twist – because it’s a total package of being a housewife, a stay-at-home mom, a blogger and an entrepreneur.
It’s a dream because it’s still out of my reach. It might be very simple to say I want this and that, but it’s actually a complicated one. First, I need to ask myself, Can I afford to become a housewife? I also have my own bills to pay (insurance, investment, etc.). The transition can be really hard considering the financial losses. It’s true that having two incomes coming in provides a safety net when either I or my partner lose our job. With only one income provider, it might turn out to a financial disaster. That’s why getting there requires careful planning.
Overall, I only want a humble life. I hope that one day, my dream job will be realized. Wishful thinking.
This post is part of the 30-day blog challenge below.
Cha of Little Misadvencha is a Filipino Civil Engineer, researcher and a fur mom. She came from General Santos City and finds that everything in life teaches her a lesson. She is inspired to write about and out of her experiences, but later found out that it was her experiences that actually inspire her.